If you are like many people in long-term relationships, I bet the question of opening your relationship to new adventures has crossed your mind. It's a hot debate. I get asked about it a lot, and it seems people are thinking about it more often than they would be willing to admit. As for myself, … Continue reading Why Monogamy is So Difficult, and Why Non-Monogamy is Not Necessarily The Answer.
Someone confided in me recently that she thinks she is not attracted to her partner anymore. She is hardly ever excited by the idea of having sex with him, even though other aspects of their relationship are pretty good. What gives? Studies suggest that women in long-term relationships have a different pattern of desire than the … Continue reading How Can I Tell If I’m Still Attracted to My Partner?
April 2016. A friend's 70th birthday party. In front of a beautiful campfire under the stars, a few friends shared a sincere discussion on the topic of sex. And although it looks like most of the people that were present (myself included), wanted to open up and talk freely, we were all just skimming the surface … Continue reading Slow Sex as Experienced by Men – Part II
Some of the women I had the pleasure to speak to about slow sex, voiced their concern in one form or another, that although making love in a conscious, mindful, slow manner sounds intriguing and promising, they are worried that their partner won't see the benefit of practising sex this way. Let me start by … Continue reading Slow Sex as Experienced by Men – Part I
If you haven't heard about Esther Perel, this is a brilliant introduction. She wrote the bestseller: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. And she's one of my heroes. Here are some of the many intelligent things she has to say: "This is the first time in the history of humankind where we are trying to experience sexuality … Continue reading The Secret to Desire in Long-Term Relationships: A TED Talk by Esther Perel