When I started this website I had mainly women in long-term relationships in mind. Women that had been with the same partner for a while and their sex life is becoming less-than-optimal. Perhaps even much worse than that. To my surprise, I have quickly realized that many women who read my blog are in different situations … Continue reading Bringing your Mindful Approach to Sex into a New Relationship.
Life was supposed to be much better, right? We found the partner that seems to be right for us. Sure, not perfect, but good for us. We thought we'll be able to have a good time with them. We thought we'll be able to sail the rocky seas of love and life with them. We … Continue reading Where Has my Fairy-Tale Life Gone To?
Some of us get confused between these two concepts. We think that the same things that turn us on are also the same things that feel pleasurable. But if you examine closely your own experience, you will most likely realize that the two are separate, distinct elements of your sexuality. At times, it is quite … Continue reading Arousal vs. Pleasure
A few nights ago, while spending time with this special guy that was in my life for a little while now, the thought "I love you" appeared in my mind. It wasn't the first time this thought crept in. It popped into my head a few times since we got together some 9 months ago. … Continue reading When Do You Say “I Love You”?
Why is it that at the start of a new relationship (the "honeymoon" phase) we hardly have any conflicts, but later on we really struggle with each other? According to Stan Tatkin, who integrates attachment theory and recent neuroscience research, it is because at the beginning of our relationship we are fully attuned, curious to explore the … Continue reading Why are Relationships Hard? A TEDx Talk by Stan Tatkin