Recently, a reader wrote to me saying she can’t have sex with her partner if there’s any discord in the relationship.
If she does have sex from this space, it’s far from ideal. This is what she wrote:
I’m just not 100% there with my partner. I end up going through the motions … Read more
There are many versions of a healthy sex life. It looks different from one person to the next and changes a few times in the course of a lifetime.
I asked sexologist, sex therapist, and couples therapist Isiah McKimmie, who works with clients around the globe, for her definition of a healthy sex life. … Read more
My 48-year-old friend told me about his dating experience with a millennial. They went on one date. She didn’t want to date him again, and she told him why. She said, he blew it because he wasn’t confident enough to ask for sex.
I once dated a millennial, too. Second date, he invited me to his place. I seriously — … Read more
“Let’s wait before we have sex”, said Mr. Right.
I didn’t mind.
We’ve been together for about a month. Both in our mid-thirties. Seasoned in relationships, some short, some long-ish. We waited another month before we had sex for the first … Read more
Some people are still under the impression that sex is something that women give to men.
When someone writes that:
…wives who consistently limit sex with their husbands to once per week… …are called ‘ex-wives.’
He implies that there is absolutely no partnership. There are two individuals: the husband, who wants sex more often than once per week; and the wife, … Read more
My eyes are closed. I’m enjoying some special touch from my partner. It feels so beautiful and I’m flying into the clouds and landing on the soft ground, surrounded by brown autumn leaves.
A fraction of a second later and I’m back to reality. Oh, I’m having sex, am I? A … Read more
Drs John and Julie Gottman are not your ordinary celebrity couple. In fact, if you never researched the topic of relationships, there’s a good chance you don’t know who they are. Which is a shame, because they are probably the perfect role-model of an ideal … Read more
If you ever cried during your orgasm and wondered what the fuck it was all about, the answer is quite simple.
The orgasm created a chain reaction that resulted in the release of some tension from your emotional body. Nothing more, nothing less.
Perhaps you knew what this tension was about. But possibly, you had no clue.
It’s not … Read more
I recently resurrected my online dating profile.
I’m back on a mission to find a suitable match and I’m taking it semi-seriously.
One of the things which I tend to do, is look at the match percentage with potential candidates. I love this feature. Saves me some “interview questions” when we actually meet.
One very interesting question which I come … Read more
You know how sex at the start of a relationship is exciting and intoxicating?
You know how sex later on in the same relationship becomes boring and predictable?
Well, it doesn’t have to be this way.
And before I introduce you to the two approaches that will keep your sex life something to look forward to, … Read more