If you ever felt that using lube is not natural, this article is for you. Some people think there’s something wrong about using lube. There is shame about needing to use it, and shame about wanting to use it. The idea behind it is that if the female body was aroused enough, it should be producing … Continue reading The … Read more
Our love affair started and ended with COVID-19. But COVID-19 is here to stay for the foreseeable future — and so is our relationship. February 2020. It’s our second date. I am recovering from a cold and my nose is still blocked. I excuse myself every few minutes to blow my nose. Coronavirus will soon become COVID-19. … Continue reading … Read more
In a society that chases youth, slowing down can be revolutionary. Once upon an article, I promised I would write about sex in the golden years. Back then, I had come across a book that I had assumed would inspire me with my mission: Sex after Sixty: A French Guide to Loving Intimacy by Marie … Continue reading Have Sex … Read more
If only everyone knew what sex therapists know, our world probably won’t need any sex therapists. Needless to say, though, most people do not study sexology, and sex therapists are still much-needed. But there are three important principles, that if people would fully understand about their sex lives, would reshape their sex lives for the … Continue reading Three Things … Read more
Slow sex, once again, is the answer. Recently, a reader wrote to me saying she can’t have sex with her partner if there’s any discord in the relationship. If she does have sex from this space, it’s far from ideal. This is what she wrote: I’m just not 100% there with my partner. I end … Continue reading How Can … Read more
What is a healthy sex life? There are many versions of a healthy sex life. It looks different from one person to the next and changes a few times in the course of a lifetime. I asked sexologist, sex therapist, and couples therapist Isiah McKimmie, who works with clients around the globe, for her definition of … Continue reading Recipe for … Read more
My 48-year-old friend told me about his dating experience with a millennial. They went on one date. She didn’t want to date him again, and she told him why. She said, he blew it because he wasn’t confident enough to ask for sex. I once dated a millennial, too. Second date, he invited me to … Continue reading 8 Dating … Read more
Slow, conscious sex is also about taking my time before jumping into bed with someone for the first time. “Let’s wait before we have sex”, said Mr. Right. I didn’t mind. We’ve been together for about a month. Both in our mid-thirties. Seasoned in relationships, some short, some long-ish. We waited another month before we … Continue reading This Is … Read more
Some people are still under the impression that sex is something that women give to men. When someone writes that: …wives who consistently limit sex with their husbands to once per week… …are called ‘ex-wives.’ He implies that there is absolutely no partnership. There are two individuals: the husband, who wants sex more often than once … Continue reading It’s 2020. … Read more
When I’m super tired, it’s easier for me to orgasm. My eyes are closed. I’m enjoying some special touch from my partner. It feels so beautiful and I’m flying into the clouds and landing on the soft ground, surrounded by brown autumn leaves. A fraction of a second later and I’m back to reality. Oh, I’m … Continue reading The Sleepy … Read more