I've been writing about sex for a few years.I think sex should be something everyone feels comfortable talking about.But... (Confession drum rolls please):I don't really have all that much experience with sex. I didn't have that many sex partners.And of the three serious relationships I was in, 2 could have easily been considered "sexless". My … Continue reading The Slow-Style … Read more
We’ve been seeing each other for nearly 6 months now. Not regularly and not all that often, I’m afraid, but enough to have lots of sex. Which we both enjoy. Tremendously. And we have both not had an orgasm whilst having sex with each other.Not even once. I suppose some people might raise an eyebrow. … Continue reading 6 Months … Read more
Today, I have a few questions for you. Can you imagine yourself having the most fulfilling love life ever?One in which sex is a joyous form of connecting with your partner? If your answer is "Yes", let me ask you another question: what needs to happen in order to transform your love life to create this joyous connection?If … Continue reading Finding and … Read more
And finally, you had someone to ask. Here are some questions I received from my readers lately, including my answers. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions of your own. Question 1:HOW TO OPEN UP AND TALK ABOUT SEX WITH MY PARTNER? How do I get past talking about what I want, … Continue reading All You … Read more
If you ever felt that using lube is not natural, this article is for you. Some people think there’s something wrong about using lube. There is shame about needing to use it, and shame about wanting to use it. The idea behind it is that if the female body was aroused enough, it should be producing … Continue reading The … Read more
Our love affair started and ended with COVID-19. But COVID-19 is here to stay for the foreseeable future — and so is our relationship. February 2020. It’s our second date. I am recovering from a cold and my nose is still blocked. I excuse myself every few minutes to blow my nose. Coronavirus will soon become COVID-19. … Continue reading … Read more
In a society that chases youth, slowing down can be revolutionary. Once upon an article, I promised I would write about sex in the golden years. Back then, I had come across a book that I had assumed would inspire me with my mission: Sex after Sixty: A French Guide to Loving Intimacy by Marie … Continue reading Have Sex … Read more
If only everyone knew what sex therapists know, our world probably won’t need any sex therapists. Needless to say, though, most people do not study sexology, and sex therapists are still much-needed. But there are three important principles, that if people would fully understand about their sex lives, would reshape their sex lives for the … Continue reading Three Things … Read more
Slow sex, once again, is the answer. Recently, a reader wrote to me saying she can’t have sex with her partner if there’s any discord in the relationship. If she does have sex from this space, it’s far from ideal. This is what she wrote: I’m just not 100% there with my partner. I end … Continue reading How Can … Read more
What is a healthy sex life? There are many versions of a healthy sex life. It looks different from one person to the next and changes a few times in the course of a lifetime. I asked sexologist, sex therapist, and couples therapist Isiah McKimmie, who works with clients around the globe, for her definition of … Continue reading Recipe for … Read more