I received a few different versions of this question from my female readers: "I think I might be asexual. Perhaps I did enjoy sex with my partner at some stage, and the truth is it's not horribly bad - he's actually making an effort to please me - but I'm just never in the mood. … Continue reading How can I want to want to have sex?
The end of the fairytale. Our three months old baby was resting in the sling on my partner's chest. We were standing outside the complex where our friends live, the ones he sent me to speak to because he could not bring himself to do it himself. He equipped me with specific instructions of what to … Continue reading A Convoluted Fairytale.
I have received a few emails from my female readers about the way they're experiencing sex with their long-term partners. They go something like this: "We are committed and we love each other very much but the sex is not that great. Although he tries to please me, makes sure I come before he does (or at … Continue reading The 30-Minutes Quicky
I think that confident lovers don't need my advice. They simply tell their partner what they want in sex. Easy. It's pretty much what I do these days. I almost forgot how I used to feel so embarrassed. Actually, I didn't tell my partner what I want and I what I need in bed. And … Continue reading Too Uncomfortable to Ask
A couple of weeks ago I asked you to send me your questions about sex and sexuality. And the questions I received inspired me to write quite a few blog posts. The first one I would like to start with is the one that will answer probably what underlines a good 95% of the questions. … Continue reading The Road Map to Solve Most of Your Issues Around Sex.
When you make love mindfully, not every moment is blissful and magical. Last night I was having sex. Not just sex - sex with a guy. A beautiful, slow, lovemaking session. It was really great and pleasurable, until at one particular moment when a tiny shift in position created a burning sensation in my vulva. Within … Continue reading Amazing, imperfect sex.
Thinking people don't take things at face value. We examine and explore and look at information to test if it holds true in our experience. This is true for women and men alike. And if you read my blog, there's a good chance you're one of us. This website is written for those who like … Continue reading Sexuality Myth Busting.
When you were three years old, you knew nothing about gender expression. You had long hair that was curling at the bottom, hair which I adored and enjoyed brushing and tying. Only you didn't like it. You wanted short hair like your best friend's, Theo. You insisted and persisted. I had a chat to you … Continue reading Thoughts about Parenting, Gender, and Sexuality.
First thing's first. I dislike the word masturbation. It sounds a bit clinical and somehow degrading. I much rather use terms like solo sex, or self-pleasuring. They are more beautiful and in line with conveying the new paradigm of sex that I am promoting. But... My title is so much better for search engines so … Continue reading Female Masturbation, Slow Sex Style
This one is for you if you are uncomfortable with sex and your sexuality. It's for you if the thought of sex makes you cringe a little. Or if you have mixed emotions of excitement and "yuckiness" and everything in between. It's also for you if you have an active, seemingly magnificent sex life, but … Continue reading Crossing the Line to Turn On Your Sex Life: