When you make love mindfully, not every moment is blissful and magical. Last night I was having sex. Not just sex - sex with a guy. A beautiful, slow, lovemaking session. It was really great and pleasurable, until at one particular moment when a tiny shift in position created a burning sensation in my vulva. Within … Continue reading Amazing, imperfect sex.
This one is for you if you are uncomfortable with sex and your sexuality. It's for you if the thought of sex makes you cringe a little. Or if you have mixed emotions of excitement and "yuckiness" and everything in between. It's also for you if you have an active, seemingly magnificent sex life, but … Continue reading Crossing the Line to Turn On Your Sex Life:
Up until 12 years ago or so, I was really dissatisfied with my sex life. I was in a long-term relationship that could easily be described as sexless. We hardly had sex, and when we did, it wasn't that great - for either of us. We hardly talked about our sex life. I'm only guessing my … Continue reading It’s that confidence thing I tell ya’.
As aware people, we understand that words have power. The power to create and the power to destroy. If you've ever looked into the topic you might have learned that some words are more empowering than others. And that some words can be omitted from our everyday language in order to help us manifest our … Continue reading The Empowering Sex Talk.
#1: I'm too busy. Busy busy busy. Between being a single mum and working on the Women's Sexuality Online Conference, I don't have much time to write. I don't have much time to socialize. I don't have much time to think about anything that is not parenting or project-specific. This is not a complaint! I love … Continue reading Why I Haven’t Been Writing about Sex Lately.
Shame: “ a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.” We know that there is nothing wrong or foolish about having sex, or with wanting to have sex, but we still feel ashamed. Or at least embarrassed. This has got to stop. Most of us grew up in … Continue reading Want to break free from shame around your sexuality?
I want the entire world to read Emily Nagosky's book Come As You Are. I mentioned her work here, with a link to her TEDx talk which summarises the most important principles from her book. One of the things which she explains in her book, which is what I would like to discuss here, is the … Continue reading I Want to Tell You About Arousal NonConcordance
When I was 14 or so, I went on a bus ride by myself. It was a busy bus, and the journey was about 1.5 hours long. At some stage, the man sitting next to me has started pushing against my body. Hardly noticeable at first, I could feel something against my thighs pressing harder … Continue reading Thoughts and Stuff about the #MeToo Campaign
I started this blog in March 2017. I published a blog post every single week ever since. And I very quickly realized that my message is not unique. There are so many amazing people out there doing a similar work. Our message might vary slightly, but the similarities way outweigh the differences. What we're saying … Continue reading The Last Blog Post of 2017
Talking about sex. Shamelessly. Fearlessly. Can you do it? Can you talk to your partner about sex? Can you talk to your friends about sex? Can you talk to your kids about sex? I admire people that can talk openly about sex, even if their attitude towards sex might be different than mine. In my … Continue reading Daring, Shameless Discussion about Sex.