Talking about sex. Shamelessly. Fearlessly. Can you do it? Can you talk to your partner about sex? Can you talk to your friends about sex? Can you talk to your kids about sex? I admire people that can talk openly about sex, even if their attitude towards sex might be different than mine. In my … Continue reading Daring, Shameless Discussion about Sex.
A few nights ago, while spending time with this special guy that was in my life for a little while now, the thought "I love you" appeared in my mind. It wasn't the first time this thought crept in. It popped into my head a few times since we got together some 9 months ago. … Continue reading When Do You Say “I Love You”?
Why is it that at the start of a new relationship (the "honeymoon" phase) we hardly have any conflicts, but later on we really struggle with each other? According to Stan Tatkin, who integrates attachment theory and recent neuroscience research, it is because at the beginning of our relationship we are fully attuned, curious to explore the … Continue reading Why are Relationships Hard? A TEDx Talk by Stan Tatkin
When I grew up, I heard that there are magazines that show naked women. They were not easy to come across, and one day I think I got a glimpse of a page that featured such a perplexing image. Later in life, as I matured, I was able to get my hands on a mature-content videotape … Continue reading Porn as the Younger Generation’s Sex Educator.
April 2016. A friend's 70th birthday party. In front of a beautiful campfire under the stars, a few friends shared a sincere discussion on the topic of sex. And although it looks like most of the people that were present (myself included), wanted to open up and talk freely, we were all just skimming the surface … Continue reading Slow Sex as Experienced by Men – Part II
Some of the women I had the pleasure to speak to about slow sex, voiced their concern in one form or another, that although making love in a conscious, mindful, slow manner sounds intriguing and promising, they are worried that their partner won't see the benefit of practising sex this way. Let me start by … Continue reading Slow Sex as Experienced by Men – Part I
I write a lot about how sex, done in a slow, relaxed, calm manner, is a great tool for transforming our approach to sex altogether. It is very profound in creating the strong bond between yourself and your partner, and it also helps people (not just women, mind you!) overcome their anxieties that are associated … Continue reading You Need to Learn to Say “No” In Order to Enjoy Your Sex Life
Have you ever come across that info somewhere, that sex gets better for women once they hit their 40's? I sure did. But this has little to do with age, really. It has to do with confidence. Women that know what they like; women that feel confident enough to ask for it and not compromise their … Continue reading Don’t Wait Until You’re 40
About 3 months ago my current boyfriend told me that I should teach people about sex. It left me in a bit of a shock - me? Being open and talking to other people about sex? Really? I'm so embarrassed by the subject... In my own life, I have had a few close friends who … Continue reading Not Talking About Sex
Most of us rational, intelligent, successful, capable adults, know that sex is nothing to feel ashamed of. We know it. We have sex. We think about sex. We (hopefully) enjoy sex. And we know it's natural and beautiful and fun. But we hardly talk about it. At least not in a constructive, helpful way. We … Continue reading Talking About Sex