What is letting go? Perhaps you came across this term before. In an early blog post, I talked about letting go in bed. By this, I meant how to enjoy yourself in bed without allowing your thoughts to ruin it for you. In another blog post (about monogamy), I mentioned the Sedona Method which is a … Continue reading I Let Go. This is What Happened. Now What?
Last year, Christmas was outstanding. My daughter was away for a couple of days, spending Christmas with her dad. And I had time by myself, alone in the house on the outskirts of Sydney - along with the Eucalypts, the birds, and the quietness. I was really looking forward to staying at home and doing … Continue reading Reflections on a Sexy Christmas.
The orgasm gap is a term that refers to the well-researched reality that, generally speaking, men tend to have more orgasms than women while having sex. I would like to suggest an unorthodox approach to the reason why it exists. And to present a thought-provoking idea of how to eradicate it completely. Why is there … Continue reading Closing the Orgasm Gap
When I started this website I had mainly women in long-term relationships in mind. Women that had been with the same partner for a while and their sex life is becoming less-than-optimal. Perhaps even much worse than that. To my surprise, I have quickly realized that many women who read my blog are in different situations … Continue reading Bringing your Mindful Approach to Sex into a New Relationship.
Life was supposed to be much better, right? We found the partner that seems to be right for us. Sure, not perfect, but good for us. We thought we'll be able to have a good time with them. We thought we'll be able to sail the rocky seas of love and life with them. We … Continue reading Where Has my Fairy-Tale Life Gone To?
A few nights ago, while spending time with this special guy that was in my life for a little while now, the thought "I love you" appeared in my mind. It wasn't the first time this thought crept in. It popped into my head a few times since we got together some 9 months ago. … Continue reading When Do You Say “I Love You”?
Why is it that at the start of a new relationship (the "honeymoon" phase) we hardly have any conflicts, but later on we really struggle with each other? According to Stan Tatkin, who integrates attachment theory and recent neuroscience research, it is because at the beginning of our relationship we are fully attuned, curious to explore the … Continue reading Why are Relationships Hard? A TEDx Talk by Stan Tatkin
Last week I wrote the first part of the jade egg review. I mentioned you should only purchase a jade egg if you are dedicated enough to actually do the practice, which could prove quite demanding, at least at the beginning phase when you are only starting out. This week I'll tell you a little … Continue reading Jade Egg Review – Part II
As lovers, we want to be good for our partners. We want to please them. We want them to have an amazing sexual experience with us. It's very natural and it has two major reasons: We truly do care for them and when they enjoy themselves, we enjoy it too. When they feel pleasure, we … Continue reading When Sex Becomes a Chore, and How to Change Things Around.
If you are like many people in long-term relationships, I bet the question of opening your relationship to new adventures has crossed your mind. It's a hot debate. I get asked about it a lot, and it seems people are thinking about it more often than they would be willing to admit. As for myself, … Continue reading Why Monogamy is So Difficult, and Why Non-Monogamy is Not Necessarily The Answer.