A few nights ago, while spending time with this special guy that was in my life for a little while now, the thought "I love you" appeared in my mind. It wasn't the first time this thought crept in. It popped into my head a few times since we got together some 9 months ago. … Continue reading When Do You Say “I Love You”?
Why is it that at the start of a new relationship (the "honeymoon" phase) we hardly have any conflicts, but later on we really struggle with each other? According to Stan Tatkin, who integrates attachment theory and recent neuroscience research, it is because at the beginning of our relationship we are fully attuned, curious to explore the … Continue reading Why are Relationships Hard? A TEDx Talk by Stan Tatkin
Last week I wrote the first part of the jade egg review. I mentioned you should only purchase a jade egg if you are dedicated enough to actually do the practice, which could prove quite demanding, at least at the beginning phase when you are only starting out. This week I'll tell you a little … Continue reading Jade Egg Review – Part II
As lovers, we want to be good for our partners. We want to please them. We want them to have an amazing sexual experience with us. It's very natural and it has two major reasons: We truly do care for them and when they enjoy themselves, we enjoy it too. When they feel pleasure, we … Continue reading When Sex Becomes a Chore, and How to Change Things Around.
If you are like many people in long-term relationships, I bet the question of opening your relationship to new adventures has crossed your mind. It's a hot debate. I get asked about it a lot, and it seems people are thinking about it more often than they would be willing to admit. As for myself, … Continue reading Why Monogamy is So Difficult, and Why Non-Monogamy is Not Necessarily The Answer.
Someone confided in me recently that she thinks she is not attracted to her partner anymore. She is hardly ever excited by the idea of having sex with him, even though other aspects of their relationship are pretty good. What gives? Studies suggest that women in long-term relationships have a different pattern of desire than the … Continue reading How Can I Tell If I’m Still Attracted to My Partner?
April 2016. A friend's 70th birthday party. In front of a beautiful campfire under the stars, a few friends shared a sincere discussion on the topic of sex. And although it looks like most of the people that were present (myself included), wanted to open up and talk freely, we were all just skimming the surface … Continue reading Slow Sex as Experienced by Men – Part II
Some of the women I had the pleasure to speak to about slow sex, voiced their concern in one form or another, that although making love in a conscious, mindful, slow manner sounds intriguing and promising, they are worried that their partner won't see the benefit of practising sex this way. Let me start by … Continue reading Slow Sex as Experienced by Men – Part I
If you haven't heard about Esther Perel, this is a brilliant introduction. She wrote the bestseller: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. And she's one of my heroes. Here are some of the many intelligent things she has to say: "This is the first time in the history of humankind where we are trying to experience sexuality … Continue reading The Secret to Desire in Long-Term Relationships: A TED Talk by Esther Perel
I write a lot about how sex, done in a slow, relaxed, calm manner, is a great tool for transforming our approach to sex altogether. It is very profound in creating the strong bond between yourself and your partner, and it also helps people (not just women, mind you!) overcome their anxieties that are associated … Continue reading You Need to Learn to Say “No” In Order to Enjoy Your Sex Life