Why are Relationships Hard? A TEDx Talk by Stan Tatkin

Why is it that at the start of a new relationship (the "honeymoon" phase) we hardly have any conflicts, but later on we really struggle with each other? According to Stan Tatkin, who integrates attachment theory and recent neuroscience research, it is because at the beginning of our relationship we are fully attuned, curious to explore the … Continue reading Why are Relationships Hard? A TEDx Talk by Stan Tatkin

Why Monogamy is So Difficult, and Why Non-Monogamy is Not Necessarily The Answer.

If you are like many people in long-term relationships, I bet the question of opening your relationship to new adventures has crossed your mind. It's a hot debate. I get asked about it a lot, and it seems people are thinking about it more often than they would be willing to admit. As for myself, … Continue reading Why Monogamy is So Difficult, and Why Non-Monogamy is Not Necessarily The Answer.

The Secret to Desire in Long-Term Relationships: A TED Talk by Esther Perel

If you haven't heard about Esther Perel, this is a brilliant introduction. She wrote the bestseller: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. And she's one of my heroes. Here are some of the many intelligent things she has to say: "This is the first time in the history of humankind where we are trying to experience sexuality … Continue reading The Secret to Desire in Long-Term Relationships: A TED Talk by Esther Perel