Some of us get confused between these two concepts. We think that the same things that turn us on are also the same things that feel pleasurable. But if you examine closely your own experience, you will most likely realize that the two are separate, distinct elements of your sexuality. At times, it is quite … Continue reading Arousal vs. Pleasure
The importance of letting go in bed couldn't be stressed highly enough. Most of us have heard this and we understand that in order to fully enjoy the highs of sexual arousal with a man, and in order to be able to climax, we need to let go. To quote Dr. Louanne Brizendine from her … Continue reading How to Let Go in Bed.
Last week I wrote the first part of the jade egg review. I mentioned you should only purchase a jade egg if you are dedicated enough to actually do the practice, which could prove quite demanding, at least at the beginning phase when you are only starting out. This week I'll tell you a little … Continue reading Jade Egg Review – Part II
Because I write about Slow Sex, people assume that I’m into Tantra. Which I am, to some degree. But I see a lot of confusion and misrepresentations of Tantra in some circles. In this article, I am addressing the misconceptions around Tantra that I come across. What is Tantra? First of all, do you know … Continue reading Tantra Shmantra
In the last email of my e-course, I mention Orgasmic Meditation (OM). It's a simple technique of Slow Sex that is quite formal - as in, it has an easy-to-follow set of rules that can help with keeping your mind focused on the moment while practicing it. In my opinion, this method is very confronting, … Continue reading A Little About Orgasmic Meditation – A TEDx Talk by Bez Stone.
If you are like many people in long-term relationships, I bet the question of opening your relationship to new adventures has crossed your mind. It's a hot debate. I get asked about it a lot, and it seems people are thinking about it more often than they would be willing to admit. As for myself, … Continue reading Why Monogamy is So Difficult, and Why Non-Monogamy is Not Necessarily The Answer.
April 2016. A friend's 70th birthday party. In front of a beautiful campfire under the stars, a few friends shared a sincere discussion on the topic of sex. And although it looks like most of the people that were present (myself included), wanted to open up and talk freely, we were all just skimming the surface … Continue reading Slow Sex as Experienced by Men – Part II
Some of the women I had the pleasure to speak to about slow sex, voiced their concern in one form or another, that although making love in a conscious, mindful, slow manner sounds intriguing and promising, they are worried that their partner won't see the benefit of practising sex this way. Let me start by … Continue reading Slow Sex as Experienced by Men – Part I
I write a lot about how sex, done in a slow, relaxed, calm manner, is a great tool for transforming our approach to sex altogether. It is very profound in creating the strong bond between yourself and your partner, and it also helps people (not just women, mind you!) overcome their anxieties that are associated … Continue reading You Need to Learn to Say “No” In Order to Enjoy Your Sex Life
Our daily lives are full of fast pace interactions. If something is not exactly the way we want it to be, we are going to fix it, using ready-made solutions and expecting immediate results. This infiltrates our sex life. If our sex life is not as exciting and mind-blowing as we think it should be, … Continue reading What Is This Slow Sex Thing?