This one is for you if you are uncomfortable with sex and your sexuality.

It’s for you if the thought of sex makes you cringe a little. Or if you have mixed emotions of excitement and “yuckiness” and everything in between.

It’s also for you if you have an active, seemingly magnificent sex life, but something doesn’t feel quite right.

I’m here to tell you that your sex life can feel wonderful. Simple yet profound. Blissful yet grounded. Empowering yet loving. Quiet yet earthshaking.

That no matter what trauma you carry with you and no matter what you think your current (or future) partner is expecting from you, you have the potential for a wholesome and amazing love life.

The other side of embarrassment.

Before I crossed to the other side, I was living in a world where it was embarrassing.

It was embarrassing to bring up the topic of sex with anyone.

Even with a partner, I wasn’t feeling too comfortable, although I must say I did make an effort.

Even when some of my friends told me about their sex lives every now and then, I would not engage. I was too embarrassed to listen.

And I believed that it is normal to live on “my” side of the world.

That everyone is embarrassed except for a handful of people.

Then, and only after I started writing about sex, I crossed the line.

This line is a little blurry and I can’t tell exactly when it was crossed. But I know that I was very close to crossing it when I started writing, and then about a year into writing, I was well on the other side of it.

And I can see, from this side of the line, that there are so many people who openly discuss their sexuality. Tons of information I could not access before, simply because I was on the other side.

And finally, as my own feelings of being uncomfortable are mostly gone, I can really learn. Without feeling like it’s something I need to hide.

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I started writing about sexuality with the intention to help women who are struggling to enjoy their sex lives.

Just like I was struggling myself so many moons ago.

Funnily enough, I discovered that other people are interested in what I write.

And after writing for nearly 18 months now, I learned some things that surprised me, that I want to share with you.

Surprise no. 1

Lots of men sign up for my free e-course, even though it’s for women. I never imagined so many men would be interested.

Surprise no. 2

Whenever I ask people to connect with me, either in a survey or via email, I get more responses from men than from women.

Surprise no. 3

Women and men who have a seemingly thriving sex life still read my articles. They share with me that they can feel empty and unsatisfied, even if they experience strong orgasms and an exciting sex life. And that the approach I explain, in which connection and intimacy are far more fulfilling than excitement, is what they are lacking in their sexual lives.

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Now I am drawing a couple of conclusions here. Obviously, I have no clue if they are true or false. Nonetheless, here they are:

Conclusion no.1

Men feel more comfortable and confident than women when it comes to talking about their sex issues.

Conclusion no. 2

The women who I really want to reach — those which I truly hope to change their lives for the better — won’t communicate with me. Perhaps they still feel too uncomfortable. Or maybe they simply can’t believe that their sex lives can, in fact, improve.

Or perhaps I’m not approaching them in a way that they can relate to.

What I really want to say is this:

If you have an inner feeling that sex should be much more than what you see/read/hear pretty much everywhere;

If you want to experience a sex life that is wholeheartedly satisfying –

Please consider crossing the line.

One step at a time.

I will wait on the other side for you and reach my hand out when you’re ready.

And I will gently encourage you to explore the possibility of claiming what is rightfully yours: a courageous, heartfelt, passionate sexuality.

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If you think you are ready, reach out:

maya@makeloverevolution.com