A couple of weeks ago I asked you if you would like to read my personal experience with the jade egg, and I received a resounding yes.
I also received a few questions, and I decided to start with an introductory post before I dive into telling about my own experience.
Who is this review for?
It’s for you if:
- You heard about the jade egg and you wanted to know what it’s all about.
- You started looking into buying one, but the only information you could come across is from the ones who are selling the jade egg and you are searching for a review from someone who is using a jade egg but isn’t trying to convince you to buy one.
- You already have a jade egg and you want to compare your own experience to an experience of a recreational user of the jade egg, just to see how you’re doing.
What is a jade egg?
In case you haven’t heard of a jade egg before, it’s a jade stone cut to the shape of an egg that is used to improve the vagina’s overall fitness: strength, tone, and agility. Apparently, it has been used in China for thousands of years by the emperor’s wives, to enhance their sexual vitality. It is used by inserting it into the vagina and activating the pelvic floor muscles.
Jade (actually, nephrite – which is the Chinese jade) was the stone that has been traditionally used in China, where the jade egg practice had emerged from. It is the toughest of all gemstones. That means it is resistant to smash/breakage (as opposed to hardness, which is resistance to scratches), and that means it won’t break inside your vagina, and it won’t smash in case it falls on the floor.
For those of us who appreciate the healing power of crystals, I have quoted this from HealingCrystals.com:
Nephrite Jade carries a revitalizing energy that can help to speed healing. It is a stone of health and abundance, allowing Divine energy to enhance the circumstances of life. Used as a good-luck talisman in many cultures, Nephrite Jade helps open the Heart Chakra to allow good fortune to flow naturally into one’s experience of this physical realm.
The “stone of fidelity”, Jade is wonderful for working with the Heart Chakra, balancing male and female energies, and helping with dysfunctional relationships. Many use Nephrite Jade as a protective stone that transmutes negative energies into positive. Nephrite Jade can instill a sense of calm and well-being, and can help to increase one’s enjoyment of life. Nephrite Jade promotes confidence and calms the nervous system.
I don’t know of any scientific research that can backup these claims, but that doesn’t mean I’m dismissing them.
I am of the opinion that if it has been used successfully for thousands of years, it is probably safe enough to use, and it’s probably safer than any other material that hasn’t been tested that long.
What are the benefits of using a jade egg?
The benefits can be categorized into two non-distinct aspects: the physical and the psychological/emotional.
I say “non-distinct” because most of us already accept that our psyche affects our physical health and vice versa. So when we improve the physical condition of our vagina, we can expect it to positively influence our overall experience of our sexual wellbeing.
Physical benefit: improving the capacities of our pelvic floor muscles.
As I explained in a previous blog post, we live in a society that doesn’t allow for an optimal activation of our pelvic floor muscles. As a result, they tend to weaken and they can gradually develop some pretty severe malfunctions – pain, incontinence, prolapse and all sorts of other maladies you rather not know of.
While there are many ways to exercise your pelvic floor muscles, the jade egg gained a lot of popularity lately, and it is supposed to increase its flexibility, strength, and suppleness.
With toned pelvic floor muscles, sexual intercourse becomes more enjoyable, both for you and your partner.
Emotional benefit: improving our relationship with our vagina.
For many of us, shame and embarrassment are engulfing many aspects of our sexuality. If we were shamed as children for playing with our genitals – if we associate feelings of disgust and guilt and store them in the cell memory of our vagina – then it would make it very difficult for us to open up to pleasure in our genital region.
While we are practicing with the jade egg, we are bringing awareness to different areas in our vagina, allowing for stored emotions to surface up where we meet them with acceptance and release them from the body.
When we go through a practice that brings our entire focus to our genitals and our sexuality, we will most probably start experiencing more ease, liveliness and renewed energy around our sex lives.
Should I buy a jade egg?
If the benefits which I mentioned in the previous section are enticing for you, you might want to try using a jade egg.
Learning to use the jade egg takes time, patience and persistence.
Using the jade egg is not as simple as putting it inside your vagina and doing a short set of exercises. Some teachers give you the impression that you simply put it inside you and forget all about it for the day (or night). But that is not necessarily the case.
There’s a whole art of how to correctly insert it, which can take a while to master. At the beginning stages, you might not even feel anything after you put it inside. And there are contradicting views between teachers about things like how to care for your jade egg, how to clean it, and whether wearing it without specifically exercising it is beneficial or not.
Most sellers of jade eggs will provide a free sheet with basic explanations of how to use it, but these free instructions could be confusing at best, sometimes even misleading.
There are so many women who enthusiastically buy a jade egg, just to have it lie ineffectively in their drawer because they don’t have the confidence that they are using it properly. The jade egg holds an amazing potential for improving the state of your vagina and your sex life – but you need to invest time, and extra money to learn how to use it properly.
To make your jade egg live up to its potential, you will need to invest in a good quality course that will give you the ins and outs of the method. Someone needs to carefully explain to you what to do, and be available to answer all your questions – and I can safely assume you’ll have plenty of those.
So, be prepared to invest the initial cost of the egg, plus a cost of an extensive online course taught by a reliable, trustworthy teacher.
Then, you will most probably need to practice a lot. A rough benchmark would be 30 minutes, three times a week, for a good few weeks when you start practicing. After that, the practice can become less demanding – but you still need to use it consistently.
I decided to invest in the jade egg practice, where should I buy it from?
There are so many websites that sell the jade egg, it’s difficult to decide where to buy it from.
My advice would be to find a teacher which you resonate with both her message and her website. It’s better to postpone the purchase of a jade egg until well after you find a teacher that you truly resonate with.
Look at her blog posts, her youtube channel, try a free product (most websites will offer a free book/course/audio) or two and see if she comes across as someone you would trust and enjoy learning from. It’s highly individual.
I personally came across quite a few websites by ladies that claim to be the world-leading expert in the topic of jade egg, and I went through an elimination process to decide which one to buy the product from.
What guided me when searching for someone that I resonate with –
- Some teachers boast with their vagina’s capabilities, like lifting weights and flipping the egg inside their vagina. While this might show how skillful they became, it is not my desire to develop such skills and I do not resonate with this kind of message. I relate more to teachers who come across as compassionate instead of as showing off with their tricks.
- Some teachers’ websites are full of images that I feel awkward looking at. Such as images that look like they were taken from a porn site or images that look like they were taken from a 1950’s magazine. I rather have a teacher that has a mild language and a moderate imagery.
- Some teachers make claims that sound too good to be true – like curing you of every disease you can possibly imagine. And some make statements without bothering to explain their origin. Some claim that there’s scientific evidence for the benefits but they don’t provide any proof or link to such evidence. I respect people’s experience and opinions but when someone makes claims and statements I won’t respect them unless they back up their claims with some data.
Once you have found a teacher that you can resonate with, and you are satisfied with the amount they charge for an extensive jade egg course, I would recommend buying their course.
Most online courses come with a money back guarantee, and this should be no exception. If you bought the course and after two weeks you realize it’s not what you were hoping for – search for another course.
Only after you started the course, went through its material and resonated with it – only then I would recommend buying the jade egg. You can start practicing without a jade egg – in fact, many extended courses don’t even introduce the jade egg until the 3rd or even 4th week – and all exercises can be done without the jade egg anyway.
Most probably the same teacher will offer you a discount for the jade egg after purchasing her course, so buy it from her, of course.
What are the characteristics I should look for in my jade egg?
The jade egg should be roughly the size of a chicken egg, made out of real nephrite jade. Some teachers sell eggs in different sizes, but please bear in mind that smaller eggs are suitable for someone who has already mastered their skill. It should have a hole drilled in it for threading a dental floss (until you learn to push the jade egg out, you will need to pull on the thread in order to take the egg out of your vagina).
If you bought your jade egg from a trustworthy teacher, your jade egg will probably have all those characteristics.
Next week: my personal experience with the jade egg.
We usually read reviews of the jade egg by the experts: those who have practiced for years and are now skillful masters. But you can’t really compare yourself to those. You are not at their level – and I assume you don’t even strive to be at their level.
Imagine you want to learn to swim, and you only have Olympic swimmers to compare yourself to. It would be quite unrealistic to attempt to be like them, wouldn’t it? It might be more encouraging to go to your local swimming pool and look around at the recreational swimmers.
This is why I invite you to read my post next week, to learn about a typical lady’s experience: what I did right, what I did wrong, how I integrated the practice into my life, how I progressed and what are the results I experienced with the jade egg.